I had tea with a friend some weeks ago (he loves his tea and I love my bites, hehehe), we talked about a number of things as he sought to pick my opinion on various issues at hand. I obviously desired to hear his opinions too especially on the topic of dating and relationships.
I asked him why he has never dated and he had a mouthful to say;
“ because I don`t want to play with any girls heart.I want my words to have meaning to the one I choose to settle down with.
I don`t use endearments like dear, honey, boo or bae as they don`t easily roll off my tongue buh also because they are secretly kept for my ONE. I would be termed old school in most people`s lenses however, I am simply being true to myself and `HER’. I desire that every word I use she will believe it.
When I say she is my sugar, spice, honey and boo; she will believe every letter as it slips from my mouth. I never want her to doubt me or my words. Each word must carry great weight of meaning .
I refrain from touching any girl in a way I wouldn`t touch my sister because I don`t want to be misunderstood. I want my touch to be pure and leave nothing to chance. I want my touch on her to be firm, loving, tender ,protective-all these in just a simple touch.
In my singleness, I have put up boundaries which are not necessarily for the ladies I interact with but for ME. Funny,huh!!!. The boundary lines of Uganda are for Uganda to protect her territory. I will text with my lady friends however, I don`t want them to misunderstand me; so I keep my guard up. NO loose talk that will allow them to read in between the lines. I want the ONE to have no reason to remind me to put up my boundaries because she sees them clearly defined ;so do her friends and my friends.
The lines must be clear for all to see and respect; where there are no boundaries abuse is inevitable.
To my fellow men out there, protect each woman you meet. Don`t allow her to have a bad conception about all men. A statement has been coined, “all men are dogs’’ and I disagree not all men are dogs. Women in our lives need to be protected from unkind words, touches, stares, treatment that is not respectful.
Preserve each lady you meet; treat her with the respect she deserves and she doesn`t have to be the ONE for you to be moved to compassion and proper treatment.
Each lady is a queen, treat her as royalty while in that taxi , at the bank queue, voting lines, downtown traffic…….”
I couldn`t agree more with this rare specie of a man…..our tea moment was beyond words special and he got me praying for all our men to harbor such a message.
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Good thoughts here!!
Imagine all men had the same mentality of their love life like that gentleman; imagine all men treated women like that; mmmhh special! Not pick n play, the world would be in a better place. I lov how much he has reserved himself n all his lov n sweetest words to his one and only. God bless him. Let’s pray for the world to change. It may look like old school but it’s the right thing to do. You know the world has turned everything that’s supposed to be right, look like they areally wrong. Thumbs up for him. And thank u Rachel for sharing.
i totally agree, the world would be a better place .
Thank you for reading.
One of those things that kept me thinking about my interactions
hahahaha, Rwego that is the whole point. enjoy your interactions with informed knowledge.
This is nice Rach, I enjoyed reading it and I strongly agree with his sentiments.
awww ,thank you my dear .
some ladies have said, this man is one in a million..hahahhaha
soooooooooooo…… Rachel Introductions please..
hahahaha, will unveil tomorrow.will be at yours