Professor Paul TP Wong, a Canadian clinical psychologist, says
“ Time spent in self-reflection is never wasted-it is an intimate date with yourself.’’
I would like to presume that COVID-19 launched many of us into self-reflection mode especially during the lockdown. With no work to go to, no hangouts or attending social gatherings, and having to stay in our homes. All we have had is ourselves and our thoughts.
I found myself thinking about Me since I was spending more time with myself away from my family. I questioned my emotions, deconstructed some beliefs and came to understand myself better. This exercise helped me learn and cement certain things I would ordinarily brush over and fail to acknowledge. Here is a list of my `findings’;
I like solitude but on my terms, not the government`s or anyone else`s. The lockdown restricted our freedom or some form of it as the governments all over the world did what they had to do to contain the spread of COVID-19.
Jealousy and the comparison trap
I get a little jealous when I see people on the internet especially my age mates or those younger than me and are making it in life. This is a comparison trap (I know!! trust me) that I am constantly falling into. God help me!!
Natural hair You Tubers
I will never be like the natural hair You Tubers and that`s okay. I like going to the salon and getting my hair fixed. Period!! Special shout out to Natural hair You Tubers especially Fiona Kemi who is constantly giving natural hair tips which work (Link here).
I like to dance but my younger sister and my shy self won`t let me prosper.
I love to eat good food that is not cooked by me. Dear friends, remember me when you have that cookout. lool!!
I process things, ideas and thoughts better when I write. Even if it means doing it over and over. I don`t mind doing it. I have notebooks and papers all over my space for this practice.
I`m so critical of myself that I fail to acknowledge any victories because half the time, my focus is on what has not worked. Recently, I hit my targets for a work project but I could not bring myself to celebrate. I was so engrossed in what I should have done better that I ignored what had gone well.
Armed with these facts, I took a social media break which enabled me to refocus and deal with that tinge of jealousy brought on by comparison.
What have you learnt about yourself during this lockdown?
PS; I failed to get a song for this week`s blog. Feel free to recommend one and I will add it to the blog.
Palito Gasha recommended I know Who I am by Sinach in the comment section. Thank you sis.